Below you will find some discussion questions I've developed for small groups going through Did I Kiss Marriage Goodbye? together. If you find these materials useful, please drop me a line and let me know! Conversely, if you have additions or revisions to suggest, I'd also like to hear from you. Thanks!

CHAPTER ONE

• How's your "graciousness rating" when you've been asked about your single status? Why do you think you respond the way you do?
• Take a moment to honestly rate your heart. Do you think your biggest problem really has been solved at the Cross? Or if you were to see the Lord returning today, would you be upset or even regret that you didn't get married?
• Before you read further in the book, how would you now answer the question, "What is God doing in and through your singleness?"

• Before you read this chapter, what would have been your "working definition" of the gift of singleness?
• Would you categorize yourself as being undivided in your devotion to the Lord and free from worldly anxieties? If not, what do you think is the impediment?
• How does the context of the local church affect your view of this gift?
• What other spiritual gifts do you see in your life and service to the church? Does being single now provide any benefit to cultivating those gifts?

CHAPTER THREE

• Do you identify with Naomi? If so, what does it look like in your life?
• What circumstances cause you to conclude God is through blessing you? What do you do to combat that temptation and cultivate trust in God?
• Where have you seen God surprise you in the past times when you though no further blessings would be forthcoming? Do you ever review those evidences of God's faithfulness?
• Did anything in the recounting of this familiar story of Ruth surprise you? Why?

CHAPTER FOUR

• Do you identify with the idea that there are two paths for femininity, depending on marital status? If so, how has that expressed itself in your life?
• What verses in this Proverbs 31 epilogue do you identify with? Which ones challenge you to grow?
• How would you evaluate your investment of your "talent" of singleness? Have you buried it, or are you investing it? What does that look like in your life?
• Of the five areas listed in this chapter as necessary for a noble character, which would you say God has changed you the most in? Which would you say you still have the most to grow in?
• What practical steps can you take now to change in those areas?

CHAPTER FIVE

• Historically, how have you done in guarding your heart? What are some of your typical relational patterns? In what ways do you think you need to change?
• If you identified with "dating in your mind," could you also identify how youve made this a pattern or practice in your life?
• If someone videotaped your life, in what ways could they see you trying to manipulate mens affections or trying to pursue them?
• How do you see a good desire becoming a demand in your heart? When you are disappointed, how do you react?

CHAPTER SIX

• No doubt, we all have lists of what we'd like in a husband. Be honest now—how many things on that list match up with the 1 Timothy 3:1-10 list?
• How are you serving your brothers in the Lord, especially the ones you're not interested in?
• In what ways could you step out to encourage other men in your small group or circle of friends?
• Are you studying materials to help you understand the doctrine of marriage and its practical application? If not, why not?
• Where are you not a good follower in clearly defined biblical roles? How can you improve?
• To whom are you regularly confessing sin? (Are there any sins you are hiding?)

CHAPTER SEVEN

• In what ways could you make your home a mission field?
• On a scale of one to ten (ten being totally devoted), how would you rate your love for the home? Is that growing or not?
• This chapter listed several practical steps you could take to grow in hospitality and domesticity. Which caught your attention, and why?
• How often are you actually home? Do you actually schedule down time to be at home?
• Does anyone in the group have some practical suggestions to share about hospitalities or skills in homemaking for busy single women?
  

CHAPTER EIGHT

• If you're currently working, what expectations do you face from your boss and colleagues about your job? How do you weigh those against scriptural priorities?
• Are you in the habit of getting counsel on major job decisions? If not, why not?
• How's your heart at work? Are you in any compromising relationships? If so, who knows about it? What are you doing to avoid sin?
• Do you have a Titus 2-style relationship in your life? If not, is there anyone you could you pray about asking to serve you in this way?
• What does your checkbook say about you? What should you change?
• Where are you consuming "seed" that you should be investing into the kingdom, instead?
  

CHAPTER NINE

• How have you trained for parenting?
• Where has God placed children in your life? Are you commending His works to the next generation or not?
• What roles might you fill in your life to the children around you?
• Do you resent being asked to serve other peoples children? What is the root issue of that resentment?
• Does anyone have some practical ideas to share about serving children now?
  

CHAPTER TEN

• Where do you fall on the beauty spectrum have you given up or are you obsessed?
• What does you best friend say about where you fall on this spectrum?
• What has influenced your thoughts/choices the most to place you where you are now?
• In what areas are you "gilding the pig"?

 CHAPTER ELEVEN

• Think back over today. How many words did you speak that met the standard of wisdom and kindness?
• When and where are you most tempted to sin in your speech? What Scriptures do you think address those temptations and tendencies?
• Think back to a recent conflict or time when you were convicted about your words. Can you diagram or list out what your words revealed in that situation?
• How would you say your words impact the men around you? Whats being revealed in your heart through those conversations?
• Where are you most likely to be indiscreet in your speech?
• How does complaining manifest itself most commonly in your conversations?

 CHAPTER TWELVE

• Where have you seen the Lord challenging your self-centeredness?
• Do you believe grace can actually translate singleness into outreach? How has that looked in your life?
• How do you serve "in community"? Are you in the habit of asking for help and input in your outreach or service activities? If not, why not?
• Who are the poor and needy already in your life? How do you serve them?

 CHAPTER THIRTEEN

• Be honest—are you encouraged by, or scared by, Lisa's story in this chapter? Why?
• How have you been viewing your future? Are you smiling in it?
• Have you been studying or meditating on heaven? Why or why not?
• Do you ever consider eternal rewards when making decisions? If so, how did that affect the last major decision you had to make?